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Make America Happy Again
A Revolutionary Guide to Wanting Less and Living More
Discover the happiness equation that will transform your life: Satisfaction = What You Have ÷ What You Want. Learn to shrink your wants, master emotional jujitsu, and become the CEO of your consciousness.
Start Your JourneyThe Happiness Equation
The Numerator Trap
Most people try to increase what they have—more money, achievements, experiences. But this approach never works because...
The Denominator Solution
The real power lies in shrinking your wants. When you want less, everything you already have becomes more valuable...
Ed's Journey to Enoughness
Eight circumnavigations. Countless countries. The relentless pursuit of 'more' that kept me running on a treadmill, expending enormous energy but never getting anywhere.
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The BMW Revelation: I worked months to afford that gleaming symbol of success. For exactly three days, I felt the thrill of ownership. Then it became just "the car." Meanwhile, Thai farmers I'd met who owned practically nothing radiated a joy I couldn't manufacture with all my possessions.
The Breakdown Becomes Breakthrough: Teaching Afghan Special Forces under gunfire, I hit a wall. The accumulation of stress, of always needing to prove myself, of chasing the next high—it all collapsed. But I learned: never waste your suffering. Every breakdown can become breakthrough.
A speck of land between Scotland and Norway with 48 residents became my teacher. No shops, no restaurants, no cell towers—just wind, sea, and the kind of silence that forces you to listen to yourself.
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Forced Simplicity: When the ferry didn't come due to storms, we made do with what was in our cupboard. This forced recognition of "enough" became a voluntary practice I could carry anywhere.
The Power of Limitation: With fewer choices, I made better ones. With less stimulation, I found more satisfaction. With nowhere to go, I finally arrived. The island's limitations became its gifts.
Life will hit you. You can't control the blows, but you can control how you respond. In Japan, I learned the art of redirecting energy rather than resisting it.
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Fear as Acceleration: Fear doesn't slow us down—it speeds us up. Teaching in Tokyo, I watched students rush through sentences when terrified of mistakes. Fear pressed on the gas pedal, making everything worse.
The 30-Second Pause: Box breathing became my brake pedal: four in, four hold, four out, four hold. A tiny rhythm that slowed the acceleration and gave me space to ask: What am I feeling? What do I need? How can I redirect this energy?
I learned to treat my mind like a boardroom. I'm the CEO of my consciousness, and every thought, impulse, and distraction is a board member trying to sway the company. Most don't get a vote.
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From Passenger to Captain: For years, I was a passive passenger in my own mind. Thoughts arose unbidden, emotions surged like tides, reactions felt automatic. The executive decision changed everything.
The Boardroom Method: Imagine your mind as a bustling boardroom with countless voices: fear, desire, doubt, ambition, distraction. Each presents its case. My role as CEO is to listen, discern, and ultimately choose which voice gets to make the decision.
Philosophy without practice is just intellectual entertainment. These daily rituals anchor the concepts in lived experience, making happiness a habit rather than an accident.
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Morning Declarations: Before the day begins, I declare what is already enough: "I have enough food, shelter, love, work, challenges to grow." This shifts the mindset from scarcity to abundance.
The Purchase Question: Before any non-essential purchase: "Do I really want this—or do I just want to want it?" This simple question saves me from countless impulse purchases and manufactured desires.
Master the Core Concepts
The Reverse Bucket List
What do you want to want less before you live?
Instead of asking "What do I want before I die?" ask "What do I want to want less before I live?" This radical reframe changes everything.
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My bucket list used to be an inventory of longing. Dive the Great Barrier Reef. Stand at the Taj Mahal. Live in Paris. Nothing wrong with any of it, except the underlying assumption—that happiness was elsewhere, waiting for me to arrive.
Emotional Jujitsu
Redirect life's energy instead of resisting it
Life will hit you. Sometimes softly, sometimes like a storm at sea. You can't control the blows, but you can master the art of redirection.
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Emotional jujitsu involves three steps: Pause, Breathe, Perspective. When stress spikes, I pause for thirty seconds of box breathing. Then I ask: What am I feeling? What do I need? How can I redirect this energy?
The Purchase Question
Distinguish authentic desires from manufactured wants
Before any non-essential purchase, ask: "Do I really want this—or do I just want to want it?" This question filters out culturally programmed desires.
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So many desires aren't ours—they're borrowed from advertising, social media, cultural expectations. We want things not because they'd genuinely improve our lives, but because we've been told we should want them.
CEO of Consciousness
From passive passenger to active decision-maker
Treat your mind like a boardroom. You're the CEO, and every thought is a board member vying for control. Most don't get a vote.
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For years, I was a passive passenger in my own mind. The executive decision changed that. Now I listen to all voices but choose which ones get to make decisions.
Time Millionaire Status
Control your schedule, not your bank account
True wealth isn't financial—it's temporal. When you control your time, you control your life. This is what it means to be a time millionaire.
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I've met billionaires who are time-poor and simple farmers who are time-rich. The difference isn't money—it's the ability to say no to everything that doesn't align with your values.
Digital Sabbaths
Reset your nervous system with intentional disconnection
Once a week, disconnect from all digital devices. This practice reveals how much mental energy is consumed by digital noise and restores your capacity for deep presence.
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Digital sabbaths aren't about demonizing technology—they're about creating intentional space. Without constant stimulation, your mind settles into a different rhythm: slower, deeper, more present.
52 Weekly Practices
Transform happiness from pursuit into practice with these evidence-based rituals
Morning Declarations
Start each day by declaring what is already enough: food, shelter, love, work, challenges. Shift from scarcity to abundance before your feet hit the floor.
Three Enoughs
Throughout the day, identify three things that are already enough in that moment. The warmth of sun, taste of coffee, sound of laughter. Micro-meditations in presence.
The Want Audit
Monthly practice: List everything you think you want. Ask each item: "Do I want this, or do I want to want it?" Strip away false desires borrowed from culture.
Intentional Boredom
Sit without input—no books, music, phones. Let your mind digest its own experiences. Some of life's richest moments come from having nothing to consume except your thoughts.
Box Breathing
Four in, four hold, four out, four hold. Your emergency brake for emotional acceleration. Practice daily so it's available when you need it most.
Evening Simplification
End each day by choosing one thing to simplify or eliminate. Unsubscribe from an email list, declutter a drawer, say no to a commitment that doesn't serve you.
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Frequently Asked Questions
MAHA is the first book to propose that happiness comes from wanting less, not having more. Instead of chasing external solutions, it provides a mathematical framework: Satisfaction = Haves ÷ Wants. The real leverage lies in shrinking the denominator—your wants—rather than inflating the numerator.
Most happiness books focus on positive thinking or gratitude. MAHA goes deeper, offering neuroscience-backed practices for emotional regulation, the concept of being a "time millionaire," and practical tools like emotional jujitsu that work in real-world stress situations.
Minimalism focuses on having fewer things. MAHA focuses on wanting fewer things. You can be a minimalist and still be miserable if your wants remain large. The happiness equation shows that satisfaction comes from the ratio between what you have and what you want—minimalism only addresses half the equation.
MAHA is about conscious liberation from the cultural programming that creates false desires. It's not about living with less—it's about wanting less while potentially having more.
Not at all. MAHA distinguishes between authentic desires and manufactured wants. The goal isn't to eliminate ambition but to ensure your goals are truly yours, not borrowed from social media, advertising, or cultural expectations.
Ed circumnavigated the globe eight times and built a successful career while practicing these principles. The difference is pursuing goals from a place of enough rather than from a place of lack.
Emotional jujitsu is the art of redirecting emotional energy rather than resisting it. Instead of fighting against difficult emotions, you learn to flow with them and redirect their force in useful directions.
The technique involves three steps: Pause (30-second break), Breathe (box breathing to regulate the nervous system), and Perspective (asking "What am I feeling? What do I need? How can I redirect this energy?"). It's based on neuroscience research about the amygdala hijack and prefrontal cortex regulation.
Some practices show immediate results—like box breathing for stress reduction or the Purchase Question for impulse control. Deeper changes, like rewiring your relationship with desire or mastering emotional jujitsu, typically develop over 6-12 weeks of consistent practice.
The book provides 52 weekly practices designed to build on each other. Most readers report significant shifts in their baseline happiness within the first month, with profound changes by the end of the year.
Yes. MAHA blends cutting-edge neuroscience with ancient Stoic philosophy and Ed's lived experiences. The practices are grounded in research on neuroplasticity, the hedonic treadmill, decision fatigue, and emotional regulation.
The book references studies on meditation's effects on the amygdala, the psychology of wanting vs. having, and the neuroscience of habit formation. But it translates complex research into simple, actionable practices that work in real life.
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MAHA: 52-Week Transformation Workbook
Make America Happy Again - A Year-Long Journey from More to Enough
Your Year of Conscious Liberation
This workbook distills years of global experience into 52 weeks of practical transformation. Each week builds on the last, creating a comprehensive journey from wanting more to appreciating enough.
How to Use: Practice daily, journal your experiences, share insights with others, and remember: progress, not perfection.
On Fair Isle, isolation amplified everything. One cold morning, the generator sputtered out mid-shower, and I felt irritation rising fast. I grabbed my notebook and wrote: Time: 7:30 a.m. What happened: Generator died. How I felt: Angry. How I responded: Slammed door, cursed. What I wish I'd done: Laughed at the absurdity. That small entry showed me how much energy I wasted on things outside my control.
The Trigger Inventory - Carry a small notebook. Every time you feel triggered, record: Time of day, What happened, How you felt, How you responded, What you wish you'd done differently.
Keep a trigger journal for seven days. No judgment, just observation.
Reflection Questions:
- What patterns do you see in your reactions?
- Which triggers show up most frequently?
- Where do you have more choice than you realized?
In Afghanistan, I learned the pause was survival. When a soldier barked at me for wasting time on "English games," my first instinct was to fire back. Instead, I took three slow breaths. By second twenty, I asked: "What would wisdom do here?" The answer wasn't to argue—it was to explain why language meant fewer dead pilots. That pause kept respect alive in a tense room.
The 30-Second Protocol - Before any significant response, count to 30: Seconds 1-10: Notice what you're feeling. Seconds 11-20: Take three deep breaths. Seconds 21-30: Ask "What would wisdom do here?"
Use the pause in every conversation this week.
Reflection Questions:
- How does pausing change your responses?
- When is the pause most difficult to remember?
- What wisdom emerges in the space?
Poker gave me the gift of breath. Under the neon of the World Series, with chips stacked high and pots bigger than a year's salary, I practiced box breathing at the table. Four in, four hold, four out, four hold. To other players, I looked stone-faced. Inside, I was keeping my nervous system from hijacking my decisions.
5 minutes of conscious breathing each morning using Box Breathing (4-4-4-4): Inhale for 4 counts, Hold for 4 counts, Exhale for 4 counts, Hold empty for 4 counts.
Return to breath whenever stressed throughout the week.
Reflection Questions:
- When is breath most helpful for you?
- How does conscious breathing change your state?
- What happens when you forget to breathe mindfully?
In Vegas, I once lost a huge pot and felt the urge to snap at everyone—dealer, players, myself. But I caught the choice point. My body was tense, ego shouting, but beneath that I heard a quieter voice: You don't have to react. I folded my frustration with the cards and left the table in silence. Response-ability wasn't about controlling outcomes—it was about reclaiming authorship of my actions.
Ask "What would wisdom do?" before acting in any emotionally charged situation.
Respond to one trigger differently each day using the wisdom question menu.
Reflection Questions:
- What's the difference between your reactions and responses?
- Which wisdom questions resonate most?
- When do you feel most in choice?
On Fair Isle, when the post boat didn't come for two weeks, I sat with an empty pantry shelf staring back at me. My top 20 wants became obvious: fresh fruit, good coffee, a haircut, WiFi that didn't crawl. But when I categorized them, most were preferences, not needs. One night, I performed my first Release Ceremony—wrote down three wants that haunted me for years: bigger bank account, recognition from "right" people, more followers. I burned the paper in the iron stove while wind howled outside. As ashes curled, I felt lighter.
List three things you want and question each: Is this a need or preference? Where did this desire come from? What am I really seeking?
Go one day without buying anything non-essential. Perform a Release Ceremony with three wants that no longer serve you.
Reflection Questions:
- Which wants serve you and which don't?
- What patterns do you notice in your wanting?
- How does releasing wants feel?
In Afghanistan, "enough" was reality, not mantra. Some days, having bottled water that wasn't expired was enough. Some days, being alive to teach another class was enough. On cruise ships, I had the opposite problem—too much of everything. That's when I began Morning Enough Declarations quietly in my cabin: "I have enough. I am enough. This day is enough." Oddly, it felt truer at sea among extravagance than in scarcity.
Say "I have enough. I am enough. This day is enough" each morning upon waking, before checking any device.
Avoid all comparison triggers for a week: no social media browsing, lifestyle magazines, window shopping, or status conversations.
Reflection Questions:
- How does practicing "enough" feel?
- What triggers the strongest comparison urges?
- Where do you naturally feel abundant?
In Vegas, my phone was practically welded to my hand. Screen time reports mocked me—six, seven hours daily. I decided to reset. Day 1, I tracked everything: pickups, notifications, wasted minutes. It was like seeing my digital bloodwork—alarming but clarifying. By Day 5, I created a phone parking station—a shoebox by the door. Without constant buzzing, meals tasted richer, walks felt longer, words flowed easier.
Check phone only at designated times. Create physical boundaries: phone-free meals, bedroom, and parking station at home.
Take a 24-hour digital sabbath. Prepare in advance, inform others, plan analog activities, and remove temptation.
Reflection Questions:
- What do you notice when you're less connected?
- Which digital habits serve you least?
- How does offline time feel different?
In a Vegas casino, boredom used to terrify me. That's why people shove chips all night—they're running from silence. But when I left the table one night and sat in my hotel room with nothing to do, I discovered something shocking: boredom had a voice. It whispered truths I'd been avoiding. On Fair Isle, boredom became my ally. I practiced the 15-Minute Nothing—just sitting, staring at sheep grazing. At first, my mind screamed. Then it softened. Thoughts I hadn't faced surfaced: regrets, forgotten dreams, new ideas.
Sit in boredom for 15 minutes with no agenda, entertainment, or goal except to be present. Practice "The 15-Minute Nothing."
Take a 30-minute walk with no destination, music, or podcast. Let your mind wander and notice what thoughts arise.
Reflection Questions:
- What emerges when you stop filling every moment?
- What does boredom teach you?
- How does unstimulated time feel?
In Afghanistan, anger was a constant companion. Once, after weeks of teaching under unbearable stress, a colonel dismissed my program as "pointless." My chest tightened, jaw clenched, words rose like fire. Old Ed would've erupted. Instead, I created my Anger Map: Trigger—colonel's dismissal. Body—heat in chest, pulse racing. Need—respect for the work. Message—"What you're doing matters." Action—channel energy into teaching with more commitment, not less.
When angry, ask "What is this teaching me?" Create an Anger Map: Trigger, Body Sensation, Underlying Need, Message, Constructive Action.
Use anger energy for constructive action. Transform one complaint into a specific request or advocacy effort.
Reflection Questions:
- How can anger serve your growth?
- What patterns do you notice in your anger?
- When does anger guide you well?
Poker tables taught me anxiety better than any meditation retreat. Sitting at the World Series with a massive pot in play, my inner voice screamed: What if you blow it? My heart pounded, hands shook. Instead of fighting it, I practiced the Anxiety Dialogue: "What are you trying to protect me from?" "Losing everything." "What action are you requesting?" "Focus, slow down, don't let ego decide." That conversation turned panic into presence.
Have a conversation with your anxiety: "What are you trying to protect me from?" "What specific action are you requesting?" "What would help you relax right now?"
Take one action despite anxiety. Use the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique when anxiety arises.
Reflection Questions:
- What is your anxiety trying to protect you from?
- When does anxiety serve you well?
- What actions help anxiety transform into wisdom?
Fair Isle taught me the art of grieving small things—sunsets that disappeared too quickly, friendships with islanders that wouldn't last beyond a season. But sadness hit hardest in Afghanistan. When a cadet who sat in the front row every day didn't show up again, I knew what it meant. That night, I wrote in my Loss Inventory: Loss—a young life. What it taught about love—presence is the greatest gift. How it changed me—no lesson is guaranteed a tomorrow. Sometimes, I'd place my hand on my heart and say: "This sadness shows me how deeply I can love."
Sit with sadness without trying to fix it. Place hand on heart and say: "This sadness shows me how deeply I can love."
Write about a significant loss, including what it taught you about love and how it changed you for the better.
Reflection Questions:
- What has sadness taught you about love?
- How do you honor grief without being consumed by it?
- What losses have ultimately brought gifts?
By now, I had a toolkit. Anger, anxiety, and sadness no longer ambushed me—they became guides. For anger, I dropped and did push-ups, then reframed: This shows me what I care about. For anxiety, I grounded myself with 5-4-3-2-1, then asked: What's in my control? For sadness, I honored the loss with breath instead of numbing out. One night in Gibraltar, feeling overwhelmed, I followed my Emergency Protocol: three breaths, 30-second pause, wisdom question, call to Sarah. The storm passed.
Use your personalized emotion regulation strategy. Create your toolkit for anger, anxiety, and sadness.
Help someone else with their emotions using what you've learned. Create your Emergency Protocol for overwhelming moments.
Reflection Questions:
- How have you grown emotionally this quarter?
- Which emotions are your greatest teachers?
- What's your most reliable reset practice?
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